Women’s Betrayer Recovery Assessment

Welcome to the Women’s Betrayer Recovery Assessment. This tool is designed for women who have been unfaithful in their relationships and want to better understand their emotional state, patterns of thinking, and readiness to take responsibility for healing.

Infidelity often comes with layers of guilt, shame, secrecy, and confusion. This assessment will help you identify where you currently are in your journey as the betrayer. By reflecting honestly, you can gain insight into your mental health, the impact of your choices, and the areas where support and coaching may be most helpful.

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Please answer each question as honestly as you can, using the 1 to 5 scale below. Your responses will help you assess how frequently or intensely you are experiencing certain emotional states and behaviors.

Guidance for Interpretation

Scores as Indicators: These scores reflect where you may currently be in your process of facing your betrayal and its impact. They are not diagnostic, but they can help you understand the depth of guilt, shame, defensiveness, or readiness for growth you may be experiencing.

Seeking Professional Help: Higher scores, particularly in the 121–200 range, suggest a strong need for support. Working with a betrayal coach, therapist, or counselor can provide essential guidance as you navigate the difficult emotions, choices, and changes that come with taking responsibility for betrayal.

Personal Reflection: This assessment is designed as a mirror for self-reflection. It can help you recognize patterns such as denial, avoidance, or empathy gaps, and invite you to explore how you want to move forward in healing and growth.

Dynamic Nature: These stages are not fixed. You may find yourself shifting between different levels of shame, ownership, or readiness at different times. Growth often involves cycling back through earlier struggles before moving forward again.

Support Systems: Regardless of where your score falls, reaching out for support can be an important step. Friends, family, coaches, or support groups can provide accountability, encouragement, and connection as you work through your recovery.

Disclaimer: This assessment is intended to provide insight into your experience as the betrayer. It is not a diagnostic tool. For a deeper understanding and additional support, consider working with a licensed therapist or betrayal trauma coach. Healing is possible, and facing your betrayal honestly is the first step toward meaningful change.